Ultimate guide how not to behave after giving up your job for travelling

Welcome back! Today I’d like to share with you my ultimate guide about how not to behave after giving up your job for travelling and also tell what you should do to avoid anxiety about your decision.

Anxiety over everything – here it is the time for some real talk.

Well, before we start let me apologize for two things:

  1. This post is insanely long
  2. This post lost its mind already while it was being written

And one more: I’m so sorry to break “Love stories by female travellers” series, it will be continued tomorrow, but I do it with a “holy” purpose! I hope this post will help some of you who are in the same situation.

You are not alone Babes!

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So, if you have been following my blog for a few weeks – hello mom and friends, I love y’all-, you surely know that I quit my job to find my happiness, to travel, and so on. It’s not the place to write about it again so if you missed my posts about it you can check them here and here.

So let’s start: Whining time, yay!

Back to a few weeks ago.

On a beautiful day, I was doing the housework, when my inner voice (oh that crazy b***h) started whispering

“You quit Girl. You did it! It’s fun and now you can go everywhere and do whatever you want, but you still haven’t set up your business… what about money? How will you make your living?”

I told you, she’s crazy and quite irritating…

…and she continued. – “Just remember: you were searching for affordable digs in the 3. district of Budapest for almost a year… Do you really want to denounce it? What will happen if you change your mind? And let me ask you this: what will happen with your career? You were working so hard and finally, it came to fruition. Are you sure you’re ready to give up everything? Now you can easily turn back…”

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“Ha! I have already told you I don’t have to burn all of my bridges!” – I replied to her – “I can keep my little spot for a while… at least while I figure out what I really want to do, and I have saved money, so I have time and I can rebuild my career whenever I want. It’s all up to me.”

I thought I successfully brought her round, so I continued mopping the floor. But she put a bug in my ears – “Okay, is there anything else you’d like to tell me?” – I asked.

“Actually I have one more thing to say… or two.”

I wish I had never ever asked it to her because she began to list it.

“You are almost thirty years old, when will you have a child? Are you sure you want to spend your money on travelling? You started to save it for buying a house. You have always had a plan and it was for a reason. By the way, you’ve never stayed in a dorm room. Are you sure it’s for you? And Couchsurfing?! Oh, come on Girl, you are pretty introvert. Oh, and are you sure you are a backpacker? Your normal handbag is bigger than a trunk… What kind of backpack will you bring? 200 litre? And I know you are not as flexible and free-spirited as you may think. How will you make friends? I know you want to travel alone – although your longest trip alone was only for 7 weeks -, but does it really mean that you won’t tell even a word to anybody? And if you do so… how will they understand you? I know you have more self-confidence in speaking in foreign languages and it’s great! Keep it up! But that English you speak is kinda basic-English, not to mention your French. And what about how you look? You really want to go to beaches all over the World and show that body in beachwear?!”

And I’m sure she would have been going on and on with it happily, but she realized that I was regressing under emotional exhaustion as she listed all of my real or putative fears from point to point.

“Okay, you must have hit rock bottom because of all of these things and I haven’t mentioned the worst things yet, but let me say something. You can undo it. Now you can undo everything. Just look at your friends and other people you know and take an example of them. It would be better for you, and it’s safe” – and that was the point when as a sudden a realization dawned on me.

She wasn’t my inner voice

She couldn’t have been – my inner voice is a cool girl and she is actually a badass. That voice was fed by my fears and other people’s fears. Since I made this decision and I have been talking about it to others, and I’ve heard just how big mistake I made.

I have been thinking so much about whether I should really write about it here or not – it was actually another argument with someone inside me-.

But damn it, it’s my blog I can share my thoughts on pretty much anything I want. Even if I lose some readers – including some of my ‘friends’.

And it may help someone who also struggles with their crazy bitches inside themselves.

I’m sick of acting a role and not being able to do something I want because of some rules made by our society or because I should follow the crowd. Since I quit I’ve been sick of listening to other people’s lament on how hard it is to change things and their silly excuses why they wouldn’t do the same. It’s like a poison! I’m sick of hearing that they blame others because of their inertia.

– Oh wow, take it easy! Is it still about travel? Are you ok? Wanna speak about it? Just drink a glass of wine and everything’s gonna be fine –

But it is not this that I am really angry about. I’m so angry with myself because I was naive and did not stand out for myself! Do not mistake my words, please. I do not think they are worse than me, or I am superior to them. It’s not about that. On the contrary, if I want to be honest – I think I can honestly say after saying all the things above -.

Every person has their own anxiety that they can deal with or fight with.

Me too. And now, in this post, I am sharing with you almost everything I’m fighting with at the moment. It doesn’t matter actually what kind of fears you have or whether it makes sense or not, they are there and you can fight with them. Or deal with them. And it’s totally up to you – oh how wise I have suddenly become… -.- – so you can choose what kind of life you’d like to live.

And I have already chosen one.

Is it the right path?

I don’t know.

The only thing I know that I regret things I missed out. I missed chances when I could have said a thing to stand out for my truth when I surely knew I was right.  I missed out those dates with that guy who wanted to see me while he was in the country. I missed possibilities I couldn’t grab because I was too cushy to do it. Possibilities that seemed too risky to take at the time, riskier than staying in my well-known comfort zone – I mean I guess because I could never find out -,

but I still regret each of them.

Now I’m ready and up to whatever comes my way. I made my choice and for the very first time in my life, I know that I won’t regret it. Even more, for the very first time in my life, I’m pretty sure that I will fulfil my expectations and now I even don’t care how hard it will be.

Okay so now I’m gonna say a huge thank you for that half person who is still reading my post about my silly anxiety and self-motivation.

As an exchange, I’d like to share with you what you should do to avoid overreacting things on your emotional roller-coaster if you decide to take the self-employed path or want to quit for travelling.

  1. First of all: Don’t be scared!

Don’t be scared! – the pot calling the kettle black… – Don’t see it as a huge life-changing moment. There’s nothing you cannot undo or cannot fix.

You do not have to quit your whole life. You do not have to sell all of your stuff and cut off all your relationships. Try not to think in extremes. If something you want doesn’t work as you imagined before just move on and try it in another way. There is nothing you can lose.

But it is also important to do it with a good purpose! Whatever is your reason for quitting you should know why you want to make this decision – I made a bucket list about things I would like to experience and places I would like to see, for example. It will keep you calm even when you feel down.

The only thing you should do is to sit down and ask yourself what you really want to do. Why you want to leave. And answer it really-really honestly. Then make a decision. Don’t overcomplicate it, just give it a try and you’ll see how it works for you.

2. Let’s talk about money.

Now you may know exactly or at least roughly what you’d like to do, where you’d like to go, and when. Great! So you can count or estimate how much money you need for your kick-off.

Try to keep your feet on the ground.

Keep track of your expenses for a while and calculate the price of your new lifestyle – if you change it. When we are thinking about money, we have to be very realistic, so whatever you want to do in the future you should have some savings or some passive/active income.

My savings are enough for me to travel on budget and also to keep my little flat for roughly a year, but generally speaking, I think it is enough if you have savings for at least 6 months ahead.   

3. Try to decide how you can make money.

Making money is not as difficult as you may think (it depends on how much money you want to make though). There are many many different ways to create passive or active income without an 8-hour job.

But please be super realistic!

Do your research on how you can make money and do not forget that demand dictates supply, even if you can make super cool handmade clothes for ferrets, it may not be a sure-fire way to make enough money, and the other thing is that it takes time setting up any kind of business.

Making money online.

Whether you have skills in making money online or not it is important to strengthen your skills or build them up. There are a bunch of ways how you can make an online business.

For example: making money from your blog or vlog with affiliate marketing and online courses, being a freelancer, dropshipping, being an influencer, being a social media manager, web-developer, graphic designer, teaching online, and it can go on endlessly.

Just try to pick one or two of your best skills and do your research on how you can use them. In my opinion, it is very important to diversify your incomes, but it doesn’t mean that you should do thousands of things. Try to focus on only two or three ways where your income may come. If you try to do too many things, you won’t have enough time for living your dreams which is why you actually quit.

Summarizing how you should do your research:

  1. read blogs, see vlogs to have some clue where you should start;
  2. pick some skills of yours and find the best ways to make money that fit them;
  3. improve your skills using SkillShare, Udemy, Future Learn or some similar website;
  4. and start doing it.  

Finding temporary jobs in other countries.

Actually, it’s not for me, because I feel it too precarious so I cannot say too much about it, but there are a lot of ways to find temporary jobs in other countries.

You can work as a crew member or work in a hostel, bar, café, you can do fruit picking or farm jobs, volunteering, building a house, teaching English etc.

Whatever you finally choose, I think it is better to do it with a company who can help you to find the best seasonal jobs and who can also find with the paperwork and with getting every necessary document (working visa for example) the cheapest way.

Some of my friends work with Anywork Anywhere and Picking Jobs and as far as I heard, they are truly helpful.   

4. Do not worry too much about other people’s opinions.

Try to recognise advice that comes from a good place and separate them from others that come from other people’s fear. There will be a lot of people who will not understand why you choose this way or – even worse – they’d like to do the same but have not crossed their boundaries yet.

Not everyone’s opinion counts.

It is very important to keep it in mind, otherwise, you cannot concentrate on your tasks and goals if you try to keep and fight other people’s problems. Try to find those people who can help you and support you.   

5. Be patient with yourself.

You’ll have ups and downs. You’ll face situations when you will feel uncertain whether you’re on the right path or not. You may have some very problematic clients and you may meet some problems that seem impossible to solve at first sight. Don’t panic, but be persistent. It takes time though, but it’ll work.

6. Just do it.

Thank you if you kept reading until the end of this post. I really hope that I could help you to overcome your fears and organize your thoughts (and also bear down that crazy voice inside you). If you have any suggestions or questions, let me know.

PS: I killed the SEO of this post with my stupidly long paragraphs. Do not do it because Google won’t like you. And neither will your readers.

24 thoughts on “Ultimate guide how not to behave after giving up your job for travelling

  1. This is both hilarious and helpful, thanks. I haven’t quit my job to travel (well, in my case, it would probably be to work on my blog, because it needs help). But, it’s something I think about, and these tips are important to keep in mind depending what I choose (especially 5- but that sounds so hard!)

    PS – I still like your post even though it’s long 😛

    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment!
      Yeap being patient with your very own self is one of the hardest things I experienced, but it’ll be better and better 🙂

  2. Ah you are so cool:) thanks for writing this and being super vulnerable. I wish I had read this when I first decided to quit my job and move across the world, but I will share it so that others can also know they are not alone xx

    1. Thank you Monique! I have been thinking so much about whether I should really share it here or not, but I’m happy with my decision 🙂 Thanks for sharing, I hope it’ll help someone to take the very first step 🙂

  3. I would like to add one on this one… I see some people who quit their job to travel, most of them will encourage others to do the same. I think that’s the kind of attitude that I’d like to avoid. I mean, even though it works for them, I don’t think it will for everybody else. 🙂

    1. Thanks for your comment! Interesting thought and so true 🙂
      Personally I’d like to encourage others to sail through their dreams whatever it is and do not fear to take the first step. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people around me who are not happy where they are, but it is always easier to stay in their comfort zone.

  4. This is such an honest post, one that I think more people need to hear. The world we live in is one where everyone is expected to follow nearly the same path of birth – school – work – family – retire, that once you shift any little inch from that path, you are seen as just a little crazy (or maybe a lot), when, in reality, you are simply taking a different path.

    1. Thanks for your heartening comment! Maybe it’s a cliche but I honestly believe that everybody should choose the path that makes them happy. 🙂

    1. Thanks for your comment! I was afraid a bit that this post is a little bit creepy and too out-spoken but I’m happy that you enjoyed it 🙂

  5. I can relate to what you’re saying so much! I never quit my job with the express purpose of travelling. I quit my job to go abroad for six months and that accidentally turned into my life 🙂 and I was younger and crazier then but I still had some anxiety. These days I’m 30, I live abroad, and my anxiety sometimes overwhelms me. Sometimes I have to tell that crazy bitch inside to just sit down and shut up! Lol. Thanks for the post 🙂

    1. Thanks for your honest comment! It makes me happy to hear that I’m not alone with my crazy bitch 😀 I think it is so important to support and encourage each other while we fight with them.

  6. I am so touched to read this..I guess straight from heart and so true. I guess taking decisions is not that easy many times.it takes a lot of courage but it’s worth. After all we have one life only

    1. Thank you for your comment. It wasn’t easy at all though, but I wouldn’t change a thing and it help me a lot that I don’t see it as a huge life-changing moment.

  7. Sounds like you’ve made the hard decision to really follow your passions, even if it means you still have a few things to figure out. I struggle with thinking about other people’s opinions too, it’s so much better when I can just shut them out and think about what gives me purpose and what makes me happy. It isn’t the same for everyone, and we have to live our lives, not someone else’s?

    1. Thank you for your supportive comment, Kelly! I’m so appreciate it 🙂 Although it was hard indeed, but I’m sure I made the right decision 🙂

  8. Your inner voice sounds a lot like my grandmother. Congratulations on taking a leap of faith and investing in yourself. The first step I think is always the scariest while traveling. That’s why I like to book a ticket and then just not think too much about it until I’m heading to the airport. I get too anxious anticipating all that could go wrong but once I’m in the flow, I just deal with everything as it comes and it normally ends up working alright for me, more or less. So much that comes with travel you don’t learn until you experience it, and that is perfectly alright. Good luck and I look forward to following your adventures!

    1. Thank you so much for your very kind and supportive comment! It made my day 🙂 I really enjoy to read posts on your blog 🙂

  9. Hi Gabriella
    It’s so interesting to read about this. As someone who has thought about just leaving everything behind more than once, I can really appreciate all the love and detail you have put into this post. It’s so important to face these things and to not run along blindly.
    I hope you’ve come to terms with your worries and doubts and that that inner voice has understood, that this is what you want and what you’ll do.

    1. Thank you so much Patricia! My inner voice is still trying to whisper silly things, but it is easier that I know I’m not alone at all. I feel comfortable and great thanks for you and others who gave me a lot of virtual support and love. Sometimes the scariest thing is to be me and to share my fears, especially here, but now I’m happy that I did.
      Thank you again 🙂

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